How to Write Wedding Vows That Truly Reflect You

Writing your own wedding vows might feel overwhelming — but it’s also one of the most meaningful parts of your ceremony. Whether you’re romantic, quirky, shy, or poetic, your vows are a chance to speak straight from the heart.

This guide helps you write vows that feel honest, personal, and truly you — with helpful prompts, examples, and a simple structure you can follow.

What Are Wedding Vows, Really?

Wedding vows are promises — but not just any promises. They’re a personal commitment to your partner about how you’ll love and support them through life. Some are funny, some are deep, some are poetic — the best ones are authentic.

Step-by-Step: How to Write Your Wedding Vows

1. Start With Your Why

Think about why you want to marry this person. What do you love most about them? Why are you choosing to spend your life together?

Example:
“From the moment we met in that tiny coffee shop, I knew my life had changed forever.”

👉 Write from your voice — not a script. If you’re silly together, let that shine.

2. Make a Few Real Promises

Skip the clichés. Choose a few promises that mean something specific to your relationship.

• “I promise to always bring you snacks when you’re grumpy.”
• “I promise to support your dreams, even the wild ones.”
• “I promise to be your biggest fan, your calm in the storm, and your loudest laugh.”

💡 Keep it simple. You don’t need 10 promises — just a few powerful ones.

3. Include One “We” Moment

Reflect on a shared experience or inside joke. It makes your vows personal and memorable.

Example:
“From our first road trip in that noisy little hatchback, I knew adventure would always follow us.”

4. Look Forward

Vows aren’t just about today. End with hope for the future.

Example:
“I can’t wait to grow old with you — messy, magical, and full of Sunday mornings.”

5. Keep It Short, Sweet, and Sincere

Aim for around 1–2 minutes when spoken aloud. Practise reading your vows out loud to make sure they sound natural and not too long.

Bonus: Vow Writing Prompts (if you’re stuck)

• “When we first met, I felt…”
• “You make me feel…”
• “I knew I loved you when…”
• “One thing I admire about you is…”
• “Our relationship has taught me…”

💬 Tip: Use these to journal freely — then pick your favourite lines.

Real Vow Example (From an Real Couple)

“I vow to always laugh at your jokes — even the dad ones. To never let a day go by without a hug. And to be your partner, in all things, for the rest of our lives.”

📩 Want more examples? View free Vow Writing Workbook

What If I Get Emotional or Forget My Vows?

Totally normal. You can print them on a card or have your celebrant hold them for you. Emotion is beautiful — it means you care.

✅ Do’s and Don’ts

Wedding Vows Do’s and Don’ts

Ready to Write Your Vows?

Take 15 quiet minutes this weekend, grab a pen, and start jotting down memories. You don’t need to write a masterpiece — just something real.

Final Words

The best vows aren’t written to impress — they’re written to connect. Speak from your truth, add a little humour if that’s you, and trust that your partner will feel every word.